Wednesday, December 14, 2011

HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING

Assalamualaikum w.b.t.
Harapnya semua pembaca di dalam keadaan sihat dan tiada kerisauan didalam diri. Alhamdulillah kerisauan yang minggu lalu yang begitu banyak mencengkam diri telah berakhir dengan test 2 finance tadi, Alhamdulillah, syukur pada Allah. Assignment juga sudah berakhir, masa untuk mulakan perang final examination starting 30hb ni.  Ya Allah. Permudahkanlah segalanya.

Seperti yang saya janjikan saya ingin berkongsi sebuah lagi buku karangan DALE CARNEGIE, iaitu Buku. "HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING". Semoga kita semua mendapat manfaat yang sama.

PART 1: FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY
Rule 1: If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osler did, Live in 'day-tight compartments' Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.
Rule 2: The next time trouble- with a Capital T-backs you up in a corner, try the magic formular of wills H. Carrier:

  • Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen If I can't solve my problem?"
  • Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst-if necessary.
  • Then calmly try to improve upon the worst-which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
Rule 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "Those who do not know how to fight worry die young"

PART 2: BASIC TECHNIQUES IN ANALYZING WORRY
Rule1: Get the facts. Remember that Deen Hawkes of Columbia University said that, 'Half the worry in theb world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision.'
Rule2: After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
Rule3: Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decision-and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
Rule4: When you, or any of your associates, are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:
  • What is the problem?
  • What is the cause of the problem?
  • What are all possible solutions?
  • What is the best solutions?
PART 3: HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABIT BEFORE IT BREAKS YOU
Rule1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing 'wibber gibbers'.
Rule 2: Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things- the mere termites of life-to ruin your happiness.
Rule 3: Use the law of average to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: 'What are the odds against this thing's happening at all?'
Rule 4: Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself: 'It is so; it cannot be otherwise.'
Rule 5: Put a 'stop-loss' order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth-and refuse to give it any more.
Rule 6: Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.

PART 4: SEVEN WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING YOU PEACE AND HAPPINESS.
Rule 1:  Let's fill our minds with thought of peace, courage, health and hope, for 'our life is what or thoughts make for'.
Rule 2: Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let's do as General Eisenhower does: "Let's never waste a minute thinks about people we don't like".
Rule 3:
 A) Instead of worrying about ingratitude let's expect it. Let's remember that Allah, its better for us and only thanks Him. Why should we expect more gratitude than Allah give us. It is natural for people to forget to be grateful, so if we go around expecting gratitude, we are headed straight for a lot of heartaches.
B) Let's remember that the only way to find  happiness is not to expect gratitude but give for the joy of giving.
C) Let's remember gratitude is a 'cultivated trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
Rule 4: Count your blessing- not your troubles!
Rule 5: Let's not imitate others. Let's find ourselves and be ourselves, for 'envy is ignorance' and 'imitation is suicide'.
Rule 6: When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade.
Rule 7: Let's forget our own unhappiness-by trying to create a little happiness for others. 'When you are good to others, you are best to yourself'.

PART 5: THE PERFECT WAY TO CONQUER WORRY

PRAYER!---> Make a good relationship with Allah-strengthen it!

  • Its help us to put into words exactly what is troubling us. We ask help for a problem-even for Allah, we must put it into words.
  • It gives us a sense of sharing our burdens, of not being alone. Sometimes, we can't tell someone our troubles when we can't tell anyone else-we can always tell Allah.
  • Prayer puts into force an active principle of doing. It's a first step toward action.
World Famous Scientist, Dr. Alexis Carrel, said: 
"Prayer is the most powerful form of energy one can generate."

PART 6: HOW TO KEEP FROM WORRYING ABOUT CRITICISM
Rule 1: Remember that "unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy and envy". Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
Rule 2: Do the very best you can and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism for running down the back of neck.
Rule 3: Let's keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can't hope to be perfect, let's do what E.H. Little said : Let's ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.

PART 7: SIX WAYS TO PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRY AND KEEP YOUR ENERGY AND SPIRIT HIGH.
Rule 1: Rest before you get tired.
Rule 2: Learn to relax at  your work.
Rule 3: Learn to relax at home.
Rule 4: Apply these for good working habits.
  • Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
  • Do things the order of their importance. 
  • When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision.
  • Learn to organize, deputize and supervise.
Rule 5: To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
Rule 6: Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage-not the insomnia. 

PART 8: "HOW I CONQUERED WORRY" 
31 True Stories 

Story 1: Major troubles hit me all at once.
  • Remember today is tomorrow you worried about yesterday. Ask yourself, How do I know this thing I am worrying about will really come to pass. (by C.I. Blackwood)
Story 2: I can turn myself into a shouting optimist within an hour by Roger W.Babson, Famous Economist.
  • Here is a method that deserve a whole chapter. Read history! Try to get the viewpoint of ten thosand years- and see how trivial your troubles are, in terms of eternity!
Story 3: I lived in the Garden of Allah by R.V.C Bodley, author of wind in the Sahara, The Messenger.
  • When the fierce, burning wind blow over - and we can't prevent them let us too, accept the inevitable
  • (Part 3: and then get busy and pick up the pieces!)
Story 4: Five method I have used to banish worry by Prof. William Lyon Phelps.
  • Live with gusto and enthusiasm. ' I live everyday as if it were the first day I had ever seen and the last I were going to see.'
  • Read and interesting book.
  • Play games ' when I was terrible depressed, I forced myself to become physically active almost every hour of the day.'
  • Try to see my troubles in their proper perspectives.
  • J.C.Pemney learned to overcome worry almost instantaneousness because he discovered the one perfect cure-God.
Story 5: I was the worrying wreck from Virginia Tech by Jim Birdsali.

By Prof Baid give his 3 rules to break worry habit.
  • Find out precisely what is the problem you are worry about.
  • Find out the cause of the problem.
  • Do something constructive at once about solving the problem.
Story 6: By Percy H.Whiting, author of the five great rules of selling 

The point of this is: Don't take yourself too seriously. Try just laughing at some of your sillier worries and see if you can't laugh them out of existence.

And there are more stories and explanation that you can gain more knowledge if you buy or read this book. Then, what are you waiting for? Just grab it!! Try this book okay? ^_____^

MOOD : HAPPY, JUST FOCUS FOR MY FINAL EXAMINATION,
 ~All worries gone just like that~

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